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I wrote single when I had come to a place in my life where I found the joy of knowing Christ Jesus as more than anything I could get in this world - including marriage. Marriage was always a big deal for me. Since that time, God has consistantly been my joy and delight, and I totally believe that this is a miracle that God himself did in my life. Through many avenues, God led me to believe that actively pursuing for joy and pleasure in this life is not a sin - it's where you go to fulfill those needs that can make it a sin. God made us to be thirsty for him. He uses loneliness as a tool to draw us to Him, and to go to Him, because He is the only one who can actually fill that void up. Not even marriage can supply the security, happiness, pleasure and contentment we need.

Added to that, I was sick of the whole dating thing in the church. I had to live out my relationships with the opposite sex according to rules that hindered me from having a proper relationship with them. The book talks about the dating thing as well, and instead of giving dating the 'YES' or 'NO' stamp I've tried to give it - what I believe is - a different direction. It's about falling in love, and every situation and relationship is different. God doesn't give us the formula for finding a spouse in his Word - instead he commands we walk with him in all our relationships. There is no formula . And this truth goes to other areas of life as well. God wants relationship, not formula.

So, single isn't about the ten points about dating or not dating, or the ten points about the 'secret' of finding contentment. It's rather an encouragement to go for gold - to really, truly, find God in this season of your life. And really, truly, enjoy it when you fall in love.

And that's pretty much it, I guess. I've also chatted about finding God's will in this book, and also the sex issue for singles (which I've tried my best to cover!) Hope you enjoy the book. 
Paperback is available for R100.00 - to order send me an email. 
The e-book is available for $5.00 - available at www.lulu.com
You can download a free PDF of the first chapter of the book here!